Sassea Sails



May 2016

Change Your Thinking/ Make Someone Happy

Change Your Thinking 

It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking..

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. 

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window. 

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. 

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. 

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. 

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. 

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. 

Days, weeks and months passed. 

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. 

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. 

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.

He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. 

It faced a blank wall. 

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. 

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’ 


There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. 

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy. 

‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .’ 

The origin of this letter is unknown, but it brings good luck to everyone who passes it on.


Do not keep this letter. 

I pray you will forward it to all your friends

Received from an annonymous e-mailer on 5/21/2016

Do You Want Cheese With That?

No one likes a whiner…Yet, most of us have to deal with someone expressing a complaint, even if it is a legitamate one.  Skip Weisman, Workplace Communication Expert,  may have the perfect solution. Skip suggests showing empathy for the complainers  concern and confirming how they want to deal with finding a solution.

Skip gives this example of what you might say to the complainer.

   I can see you’re really (emotion expressed) about (the situation/experience that is the cause).

   Can I ask you a question?

   Are you telling me this because you just want to vent, or because you’d like my help/advice in     resolving the issue.

Use open arms, not flailing around, but not crossed over your chest. Look relaxed. Make eye contact.

For more information and ways to improve your personal and professional relationships visit Skip’s website.

Although geared for the workforce, the concepts and suggestions are just as effective with your spouse, your friend, or your child.

Ever See Ice Sink?

Well, neither have I. A discussion with Julie, the campground chief, cook, and bottle washer enlightened me on this 40 degree barely sunny afternoon. Not believing when she told me that the ice only melts about an inch or so off the very top then sinks, I had to walk another 1/4 of a mile to get internet access so I could verify this phenomena. At the expense of erring by doing a simply cut and paste of an article address this I did just that. To be honest, after reading it 3 times my chemistry acumen continues to baffle me such that I am in no position to paraphrase, re-write or otherwise try and explain. For your edification here is the article from the Star Tribune, presumably written by Karen Youso as copied from the internet on 5/5/2016.

Fixit: Lake ice sinks then disappears each spring

QHow does the ice melt on a lake? You will see it there one day and the next it will be gone. What happens to it?

AIce floats on a lake’s surface until it is melted. Although it sometimes floats low in the water, it does not sink to the bottom, as some mistakenly believe. Water is heaviest at 39 degrees, lighter at higher or lower temperatures. Falling air temperatures in autumn and lower sun angles, in conjunction with wind and wave action, result in the lowering of lake temperatures. Because the cooler water is heavier, it will sink, displacing and forcing warmer water to the surface. This continues until the entire lake reaches a temperature of about 39 degrees.Following this, surface temperatures will fall below 39 degrees and the cooler and lighter water will remain at the surface. As the surface water cools further, it will eventually change into ice.

Because the ice is colder and less dense than the water below it, it floats. In the spring, the reverse occurs. Rising air temperature and higher sun angles cause melting to begin on top of the ice layer. If there are no cracks or fissures, the melting water will accumulate on top of the ice. If this happens over an entire lake (which is unlikely) or over parts of the lake, one might get the impression that the ice is sinking. But it isn’t.

Further warming will cause the ice to become rotted or honeycombed, with water and air filling the void. The dark color of ice in late winter is because of this honeycombing. As the honeycombing process continues, the ice mass floats lower and lower in the water until it is completely melted, but it never sinks to the bottom.


Send your questions to Fixit in care of the Star Tribune, 425 Portland Av. S., Minneapolis, MN 55488, or call 612-673-9033, or e-mail columns are available at, Fixit cannot supply individual replies. Fixit appears every day except Friday.

Sailing the Maritines

As we sail across the Canadian Maritines we relish the luxury of sleeping indoors on solid ground. Albeit it isn’t as challenging as sailing to latitude 48 along the Atlantic coast,  the beauty of a road trip allows us to ‘sail safely in much less time than it would take on even the fastest multihull. The fact that two days ago we could have literally walked on water keeps us in touch with our passion for life at sea on this the 5th day of May, 2016.

Lac Matapedia on Gaspesie Peninsula
Lac Matapedia on Gaspesie Peninsula


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