As stated in the Sea of Life Part I blog entry, each line I read in the poem below was questioned. My brain kept repeating, ‘what if’ until it reached such a crescendo that I had to literally get out of my easy chair and write about it to help quell the voices within. Each line in the poem as it was presented are in the left column. On the right is my response as I rationalize my behavior in order to make sense out of my choices. At the least doing so became an interesting insight into my cynicism. . . Let me know your thoughts . . .
|There is so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t||What if finding someone who will want you is fulfilling? Ever watch the gleam in the eyes of people in their 70s or 80s holding hands as they stroll along?
Sadness is a normal part of rejection in our bitter sweet life. What if one allows a limited amount of time to be sad while allowing time to be happy in each day. What if I quit being sad over my husband’s death? That would be the ultimate sadness….
|There is a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way||What if I have spent my life discovering myself without hoping someone will fall in love with me along the way, but what if my being is overwhelmed with the quest to taste love’s lasting pleasure?|
|And it doesn’t need to be painful or empty||What if we need pain to feel relief?|
|You need to fill yourself up with love||What if it gets tiring? What if a message from a friend adds to fulfillment?|
|Not anyone else||What if others want to add love to your life?|
|Become a whole being on your own||What if you are a whole being? What if being whole needs defining?|
|Go on adventures||What if my adult life has been an adventure? Buying my own sailboat, teaching myself how to sail, sailing solo from Bermuda to Florida? These are not adventures,,,, surfing in Jeffreys Baai, trekking the Lares Valley|
|Fall asleep in the woods with friends||What if I have slept in the woods with friends and along?|
|Wander around the city at night||What if I spent more nights I can remember or count wandering the streets of New York City? It doesn’t get more citied than New York…|
|Sit in a coffee shop on your own||What if I spent many a morning or mid day sitting in a coffee shop alone? What if I told you at age 21 I did so in the French Quarter? Just sipping a latte watching others come and go?|
|Write on bathroom stalls||Yea, what if I told you I have written on walls around the world?|
|Leave notes in library books||What if I have written and continue to leave notes in books I read, whether in the library or in a campground, marina book swap.|
|Dress up for yourself||What if I took a pix of myself wearing my brand new size 27 stretch skinny jeans, that I proudly sasshaed around in, and didn’t need a complement to stick my chin up, and boobs out, cause I knew I looked good!|
|Give to others||What if I continually donate time and money to others?|
|Smile a lot||What if I smile most of the day? Even when I was at Linda’s I practiced the wonderful mantra she shared with me, “chin up, boobs out, smile, smile, smile.|
|Do all things with love||What if I believe I do all things with love? I avoid judgement… I respond|
|Don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without love||What if romanticizing just comes into my brain? I can survive, I will survive, that is not an issue. What if I choose to survive with a mate with whom there is mutual love?|
|Live for yourself||What if living for myself is the only way I can live? Indeed I firmly believe everyone does. Even Mother Theresa lived for herself; her way of living for herself meant helping the poor, indigant and ill.|
|Be happy on your own||What if I can be happy on my own but the daunting ‘work’ to live on my own is eased with the loving companionship of a mate|
|It isn’t less beautiful, Promise||What if beauty is in the eye of the beholder|