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Bulls Face Their Foe

Having read John F. Burnett’s book, “Uncivilized Beasts and Shameless Hellions” taught me an unexpected truth. The book is divided into eleven chapters. Each chapter depicts an experience John had while working as a radio reporter for National Public Radio. While each story is told with the alacrity for which NPR journalists are known, it was in his story about bullfighting that a quote by Matador Martinez stirred my emotions.

 

According to Martinez, as quoted by Burnett,

The bull is more noble than many people. His eyes say that he is about to charge you, that he wants to kill you. Humans will not look you in the eyes before they betray you.” 

Although most betrayals by humans do not end in death, they do end in hurt feelings.  Is it courageous to be honest at the risk of hurting someone’s feelings?  Is it cowardly to carry out the act of betrayal without so much as a word to the one being  betrayed. Would you rather be a bull and look into the eyes of the one you will bring forth unwanted news?  Or would you rather be a wolf in sheep’s clothing? You know the kind of person who greets you with a smile and says something like, “Oh, how nice to see you.” Then do something they know you will not like.

Regardless of your take on the Bull versus Human method of interaction, Burnett’s book brings to light an interesting perspective about what it is like to be a journalist covering stories such as bullfighting, death row, war, and natural disasters.

Sun never sets,,,

To say the sun never sets implies it is worldwide. Historically England had colonies around the world. Therefore it could be said “the sun never set on the British flag.

Wikipedia (September 24, 2017) states it this way:

          The sentiment expressed by these words first appeared in Christopher                                     North’s1829 work Noctes Ambrosianae. The actual words used by Christopher North were ‘His Majesty’s dominions, on which the sun never sets’ (as these words were written in 1829, the “Majesty” in question would have been King George IV).Sep 11, 2009

Geographically there are places in the world where the sun never sets. Norway, Sweden, Finland, Alaska, Iceland and Greenland experience 24 hours of sunlight for about half the year. For those not accustomed to daylight during the midnight hours it is a worthwhile experience. Rather than rise in the east and set in the west, the sun continues to move across the horizon. Definitely, it is the view that validates how the earth rotates around the sun. Or is it that the sun rotates around the earth?

 

Sincerity versus Integrity

Regretfully I did not document the source of an interesting concept; that is the difference between sincerity and integrity. Accordingly sincerity relates to intent whereas integrity relates to the action. For example, a man invites a woman out on a date. At the time of the asking he truly wants her to be by his side, to accompany him to said event. The event doesn’t matter in this situation. Rather we are focusing on the sincerity with which he invited her. This situation could be between two friends, a parent and a child, or even a teacher and a student.

The point is at the time of the invitation the intent was clear and desirable. Then, something happens and for whatever reason the person doing the inviting or the one agreeing to the date changes their mind. Perhaps something better comes along, perhaps the invitation was forgotten. Again, why one of the parties changes their mind is not important. What is important that one of the parties did not keep their word. Though sincere about asking, their mind changing reflects their integrity.

Regardless of how sincere one is when making a plan, the integrity is demonstrated in the follow through. Does this make sense? Does it help narrow down the description of someone? One can be sincere with less than desirable integrity. Or so stated the source which I failed to document…While I am sincere in the message perhaps my integrity with giving credit where credit is due is not so strong.

Comments? Questions? Let me know: sailorhiker@gmail.com

An Ah-ha …

Here is an idea whose time has come. It is regarding the challenge of two people deciding to share a residence. In this particular case we will describe the characters as neat freak and la-de-da. Specifically this article will discuss an idea of deciding who gets to take how much of a prized possession.

Neat freak adamantly controls the amount of space each person is allowed. The division of space is approximately a 60/40% split. La-de-da gets the extra space. When it comes to shoes, however, neat freak finds it difficult to understand why la-de-da has more than 20 pairs of shoes. As a result of three moves in two months La-De-Da is deciding which pairs to give up.

In the meantime a counter defense is needed.  When Neat Freak carries out the box of shoes words will puke out. These words might include, “You can’t take this many shoes?”, “Why do you need pink ones?” “One pair of shower shoes is all you need.”

Like I stated in the opening paragraph, the ah-ha moment had me drop one of the packing boxes. Then, hurriedly the laptop was put on the charger. This was followed with turning on the iPhone and connecting the personal hotspot in the ‘settings.’

So, here is the plan:  When Neat Freak makes a disparaging remark about the number of shoes, La-De-Da will whisper in an assertive, flirtatious tone with something like, ” Yes, there are a lot of shoes. Let’s limit the number to the same number of tools in your toolbox. Oh, yea, and about that bird you like on the kitchen table, we need to negotiate a better place. Like my dolls kept in the backroom, perhaps birdie can live in the man cave or outside on the deck or in the garden…..

Let me know what you think. 

Sassythesailor@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sailmeom.com

Found this website and believe it is worth sharing. Here is an excerpt that speaks to me. This is especially true after my soliloquy on Sea of Life Parts I and II which was posted a few minutes ago. How timely???

3) Know the difference between fear and anxiety.

After reading a really wonderful series of blog posts by a fellow sailor and therapist, I know that what I feel is actually anxiety.  Not panic-attack level, medication-necessary anxiety, just run-of-the-mill Jewish Grandma worry. Understanding more abouthow my brain works has been helpful. It hasn’t cured me,,,but perhaps reading up on how you feel can make a difference. By understanding what’s happening in your brain chemistry,You can let feelings pass through you and acknowledge them, and ultimately let them go in a moment of zen, or treat them professionally if necessary.

http://www.sailmeom.com/stories/2016/10/25/fear-anxiety-boats

On the Sea of Life, Part I

The next chapter in my life begins, like previous ones, with the end in mind; sort of. As Covey postulates one needs to know where they want to be in order to navigate an efficient course to arrive at their preferred destination. What if one doesn’t know where they want to end up? What if one wants to meander through life one day at a time?

Years ago as part of professional development I participated in a workshop that illustrated three different types of people. Those who asked themselves one of three key questions: What if? How?  Why? Instinctively, before the lecturer gave details about each of those categories, I knew I was a ‘what if’ person. Always when faced with a challenge I ask what if?

This has been especially true when faced with a challenge to do what others indicate is something I either don’t have the talent for or something that could be harmful. An example is my present situation. Despite the odds of making a life with someone who has twice denounced me I ask, “What if this time, we make it work out? A previous decision I made regarding the purchase of a boat in a foreign third world country was, “What if this boat truly becomes a classic?” More significantly was when I asked myself, “What if I make it around the world.”

In simpler situations I ask, “What if I buy a VW bug?” What if I buy another musical instrument?” Of course, the haunting question at age 69 is “What if the stock market crashes?” Regardless of the situation though my thoughts are more concerned with the What ifs, rather than the how to do something, or the why.

Which of these questions do you frequent? Test yourself during the next week and please feel free to share your responses. Throughout your day question what you are doing or what you are going to do. For example, let’s say you are going to exercise by walking two miles. Then, see which question comes to mind:

Why are you going for a walk?  How are you going to walk?  What if you walk _____?

Question Possible Response
What are you going to do to get healthy? Go for a two mile walk.
How are you going to get healthy Walk and lift weights.
What if you do something different than on previous occasions Maybe it will be more fun.

The point is to determine what questions you ask yourself. The reason I brought this topic up is because a friend sent me a poem about how I need to love and cherish myself rather than look to another for validation. Yet, as I read each line, my brain interjects, “yea, but what if…” To see how the poem transpires see the next post entitled, “Sea of Life Part II.”

 

FULL CIRCLE by Ellen MacArthur

Ellen’s book, “Full Circle,” confirmed the intelligence, ambition, and understandably of an incredible  woman. How many women do you know have sailed in a boat by themself? Well, Ellen did. She crossed the Atlantic Ocean when she was in her early twenties. And then, she went on to break the around the world single handed sailboat challenge.  Knowing Ellen’s round the world record breaking feat was completed on a trimaran further compelled me to put her on my list of heroes.  Before I could read her book I had to conquer my struggles with jealousy. More on that later.

The first half of Ellen’s book focuses on the 2004 round the world single handed race in which she broke the record. A more amazing challenge is told in the second half of the book when Ellen reveals her choice to hand up her sailing gloves. She calls it ‘sustainability.’ Her influence both in sailing and sustainability are a part of my everyday life.

As a reader/learner I develop an intimate relationship with the written words. Notes are written in the margins, with arrows pointing to pertinent phrases, and words I want to add to my everyday vocabulary. So it is no surprise that on April 18, 2017 I wrote these words on the front page of Full Circle.

To pick up this book to read has brought tears as the reality of my aspiration met with who I am, a dreamer, a jealous want to be extraordinary sailor–a solo round the world sailor, maybe one…not today!

Quote from the book:

“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.”   Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Hear Ellen’s Own Words at:

I QUIT

In poker they say you have to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em. In my life quitting has been absent. During one particular 45 mile race the wind died and before reaching the ten mile mark most of the sailors got towed to the finish line. My crew was not happy as I continually waved on the power boats offering to tow us. At 11 pm we crossed the finish line. The committee boat was long gone. When we reached the beach where the food had been served and the band had the crowd dancing to their favorite tunes, only two people were on the beach. It is nice to have these two friends greet us after twelve hours of listening to my crew whine about how ridiculous my decision was. For me, it was a win despite losing her as a crew for future races.

With my own aging and the death of my husband there has been a progression toward quitting. Why stress? To learn to set up a website as part of my choice to provide a service to my community I leaped at the chance to create their monthly newsletter. Then, they added the job of distribution. I have not enjoyed that part. Typing e-mails with a system that my internet service provides a constant challenge, then having to drive 40 miles to the Staples for copies, with a final task of sticking address labels and stamps on envelopes gets in my way. I wanted a job that could be done at home at my leisure, as producing the newsletter is.

Stupidly, I also offered to learn how to update their website. Talk about stress. Again I blame my poor internet service. ENOUGH! By the end of this month I will detach myself from that job. This will come after last night’s decision to no longer distribute the newsletter. I will continue to write and produce the newsletter until December 2017. Call me a quitter.

Compounding my stress is my choice to quit cruising. As I write this blog entry  SPRAY’s new owner sits about 3 feet to my left. While he surfs the FCC regulations to transfer the Ham Radio and Single Side Band license from my clutches, I wonder how I ever came to this decision. The decision to to quit cruising? To become the mate of a tall, handsome gentleman who, like me, is not perfect? To become an unwed housewife?

Wow, what am I doing? Why am I doing this? Oh, never mind, I know why I quit cruising. Although until this moment I didn’t realize it was the same reason to quit spending so much time on the museum newsletter tasks. I quit because of the self imposed stress these situations caused.

Kenny Rogers would be proud that I learned the lesson he so eloquently sings. Yipe, I have finally learned when to fold ’em.

Vocab – Moitessier’s Sailing to the Reefs

ineffable – The essence of his voice at its best is an ineffable mix of prosaic practical advice and metaphysical exaltation.

prosaic – The essence of his voice at its best is an ineffable mix of prosaic practical advice and metaphysical exaltation.

exaltation – The essence of his voice at its best is an ineffable mix of prosaic practical advice and metaphysical exaltation.

inchoate – We see it inchoate in the incredible energy he displays.

corvette – Two months after the wreck, the British corvette Loch Glendhu dropped me at the island of Mauritius.

francs – Somewhere around five or  six thousand francs for all I should need.

incommoded – The artificial lung could thus be lowered slightly below the keel of the boat and the divers could move horizontally and vertically without their work being incommoded.

conjugal holidays – Why would she die, not undersanding the importance of ‘conjugal holidays’ something I am beginning to appreciate.

boccas – The anchor was stowed on deck, the sails hoisted and Marie-Therese II set out towards the ‘boccas’ which open out into the sea opposite, Grenada.

fathoms – I dropped anchor in three fathomas.

Maxiton – Why had I never decided to keep a tin of Maxiton in the medicine chest on board?

draught – The draught will be as small as possible.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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