“If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people together to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.” Antoine de Saint-Exupery (taken from Ellen MacArthur’s book, ‘Full Circle’)
This is a bit longer than my usual quips and quotes, but thought it poetic justifiable:
Yesterday, February 24, 2017, started as a semi-normal day when you consider we had to leave the house at 7:30 am to get Ron to his scheduled out patient hernia surgery. As you know, he times everything to the precise second. Because I might have to drive him home we chose to take my brand new VW bug. Being smart enough to always let him drive to avoid having two drivers in the car, I handed Ron the keys after he slid into the driver’s seat. “Remember to put your foot on the brake in order for the car to start,” I whispered.
The gear shift was in Park and his right foot was on the brake. Methodically he looked at the slot where the key goes in, then proceeded to slide it in. The expression on his face told me something didn’t work. “Is your foot pressing on the brake all the way down?” I cautiously asked. No reply.
After two or three attempts at getting the key to turn the ignition on, I feared I may have gotten something on the key. Frustrated I said, “Hold on a sec, while I go back in the house to get the extra key!” As fast I could scrounge the house key to unlock the door I then ran upstairs grabbed the extra key, relocked the door to the house and jumped back in the car. All to no avail.
Ron tossed the keys on the dashboard. “Let’s just take the truck,” he exclaimed. Knowing there is no way I would drive his beast of a truck he continued, “If they ask if you are driving me home from the hospital you say YES.” In no time we were truckin’ off to the Naples Hospital.
The surgery went fine. While he was under anesthesia I called roadside assistance. They would send someone after 5 pm to be sure we were back home. At 6 pm I called road side assistance to make sure they were on their way. Lo and behold the Naples car fixers decided they didn’t want to come the 50 miles to Everglades City. So, the wise roadside people called a service in Miami, a mere 108 miles away. It was well after dark when I had drifted off to sleep in the middle of some weird shoot –em up movie we were watching, when the car guy shows up.
I am so disappointed I missed this show. Not the movie but rather the show in which Ron gets in the bug to show the mechanic that the key won’t allow the ignition to rotate to the on position. “Turn the wheel,” bellowed the astute mechanic. Word has it that Ron turned the steering wheel but an inch and walla, kajalla, the ignition ignited.
Ron apologized for our lack of creativity in solving the problem. The gracious mechanic smiled as he got in his tow truck for his return journey of 108 miles back across the Tamiami Trail.
You gotta’ know when to hold ’em
Know when to fold ’em
Know when to walk away
Know when to run
as song by Kenny Rogers
Engraved on a tombstone at the cemetry where my friend, Linda’s parents and brother – in- law are buried:
TO THE CATERPILLAR IT IS THE END,
TO THE BUTTERFLY IT IS THE BEGINNING!
No one likes a whiner…Yet, most of us have to deal with someone expressing a complaint, even if it is a legitamate one. Skip Weisman, Workplace Communication Expert, may have the perfect solution. Skip suggests showing empathy for the complainers concern and confirming how they want to deal with finding a solution.
Skip gives this example of what you might say to the complainer.
I can see you’re really (emotion expressed) about (the situation/experience that is the cause).
Can I ask you a question?
Are you telling me this because you just want to vent, or because you’d like my help/advice in resolving the issue.
Use open arms, not flailing around, but not crossed over your chest. Look relaxed. Make eye contact.
For more information and ways to improve your personal and professional relationships visit Skip’s website. info@WorkplaceCommunicationExpert.com
Although geared for the workforce, the concepts and suggestions are just as effective with your spouse, your friend, or your child.
Secrets and Confessions are all part of a life well lived.
Dan O’Brien, The Contract Surgeon, page 100
“The historian will tell you what happened. The novelist will tell you what it felt like.”
–E.L. Doctorow (1931-2015), In Time Magazine —
as printed in the October 2015 AARP Bulletin
‘Senior women are the largest demographic group in the US. More astonishingly is that for the first time in the history of the world, the money will be using to enhance our golden years will be money we have earned ourselves.”
A credible colleague shared this quote from one of her readings by Dr. Christiana Northrup; additional information pending..