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Women Who Change Their Mind

Justifying a sudden change in lifestyle as the result of an inadequate supply of confidence an idea finally entered the conscious part of my mind which is helping to ease the embarrassment and concern for regret. “Women Who Sail” is a popular website that is inspires and educates, in a relaxed atmosphere. Indeed the posts inspired me to write about sailing on land. After all, the whole premise for SasseaSails.com is the metaphorical application of sailing. Relating sailing a boat to sailing in a recreational vehicle, soaring over clouds, or even navigating a relationship makes for fun and interesting ideas.

Women do more than sail. To piggyback on that theme a blog on Sasseasails has just been added, “Women Who Change Their Mind.”  Maybe there is already a site with that title. Best do some research before posting.

…Ay, heck maybe posting it first than waiting for responses is the way to go….

 

 

Bulls Face Their Foe

Having read John F. Burnett’s book, “Uncivilized Beasts and Shameless Hellions” taught me an unexpected truth. The book is divided into eleven chapters. Each chapter depicts an experience John had while working as a radio reporter for National Public Radio. While each story is told with the alacrity for which NPR journalists are known, it was in his story about bullfighting that a quote by Matador Martinez stirred my emotions.

 

According to Martinez, as quoted by Burnett,

The bull is more noble than many people. His eyes say that he is about to charge you, that he wants to kill you. Humans will not look you in the eyes before they betray you.” 

Although most betrayals by humans do not end in death, they do end in hurt feelings.  Is it courageous to be honest at the risk of hurting someone’s feelings?  Is it cowardly to carry out the act of betrayal without so much as a word to the one being  betrayed. Would you rather be a bull and look into the eyes of the one you will bring forth unwanted news?  Or would you rather be a wolf in sheep’s clothing? You know the kind of person who greets you with a smile and says something like, “Oh, how nice to see you.” Then do something they know you will not like.

Regardless of your take on the Bull versus Human method of interaction, Burnett’s book brings to light an interesting perspective about what it is like to be a journalist covering stories such as bullfighting, death row, war, and natural disasters.

Ignorance & Arrogance

“You can’t dispel ignorance with arrogance.”

Heard on a radio news broadcast

Seems similar to the inability to teach someone who is knowledgeable…

 

Woman Who Sail on Land

Woman Who Sail is a wonderful forum for communicating with others who share a similar interest. The site is largely composed of females who sail boats. As recently as today there was a reminder that there are many woman who sail through life, not just on boats. Take for example, Carol.

Carol lives in her recreational vehicle. Not the kind that is designed to float in water. Rather it is the type of vessel that is designed for travel on land. This puts Carol and the hundreds, perhaps thousands of other women who choose to navigate the world on land.

It is about sailing through life. Certainly the women who soar through the air in planes are also sailing. Maybe the terminology differs depending on the vessel, but still one is at the very least metaphorically sailing through life. At least that concept is helping me cope with my current choice to live on land while testing the waters aboard the s/v Coupleship.

Enough about me, for more inspiration about sailing on land check out Carol’s website:

http://hittingtheroad27.blogspot.com

Regretful Remembrance of Viet Nam

Regretfully, my involvement and recollection of the year my older brother, Harry spent in Viet Nam was devoid of the man’s inhumanity to man. What I remember is once a month mom and I would bake chocolate chip cookies, pack them in a box littered with miniature marshmallows and send them to Harry. His letters reflected the appreciation of him and those in his command for the treat. Most of the cookies he jeered after his return home were ‘unbroken. “…and the marshmallows were like the icing on the cake.”

Recently while enjoying the company of a new friend, Linda S., we talked about our memories of View Nam. When I told her about using the marshmallows to cushion the chocolate chip cookies. She seemed amazed. “What a great idea,” she clambered. “Much better than using those styrofoam nuggets.”

In memory of Harry and all those he shared the cookies with I am baking several batches of cookies. One for Linda S., one for my sister, one for our younger brother, and one for Harry’s Vietnamese friend. I wish I had done more.

Pansexual

Apparently pansexual means a liking of everyone. If one is pansexual they are heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. A pansexual person likes everyone regardless of their the sexuality of another person.

Researching the term pansexual brings up the idea of you say tomato (toma toe) versus tomata (toma ta). The term first came to light and seems to be popularized by celebrity quips. Miley Cyrus recently declared her pansexual preference.

Being pansexual does not require one engages in sexual activity. The implication is that one likes everyone. Sounds like a nonjudgmental approach. More research on the use of the term is suggested before one announces there choice of label. For example, if I am physically attracted to someone who turns out to be a homosexual female does that make me a lesbian.

If you have a comment or question on this newly popularized descriptor please let me know. Let us learn together.  You can reach me at sassythesailor@gmail.com

 

 

Sun never sets,,,

To say the sun never sets implies it is worldwide. Historically England had colonies around the world. Therefore it could be said “the sun never set on the British flag.

Wikipedia (September 24, 2017) states it this way:

          The sentiment expressed by these words first appeared in Christopher                                     North’s1829 work Noctes Ambrosianae. The actual words used by Christopher North were ‘His Majesty’s dominions, on which the sun never sets’ (as these words were written in 1829, the “Majesty” in question would have been King George IV).Sep 11, 2009

Geographically there are places in the world where the sun never sets. Norway, Sweden, Finland, Alaska, Iceland and Greenland experience 24 hours of sunlight for about half the year. For those not accustomed to daylight during the midnight hours it is a worthwhile experience. Rather than rise in the east and set in the west, the sun continues to move across the horizon. Definitely, it is the view that validates how the earth rotates around the sun. Or is it that the sun rotates around the earth?

 

Sailmeom.com

Found this website and believe it is worth sharing. Here is an excerpt that speaks to me. This is especially true after my soliloquy on Sea of Life Parts I and II which was posted a few minutes ago. How timely???

3) Know the difference between fear and anxiety.

After reading a really wonderful series of blog posts by a fellow sailor and therapist, I know that what I feel is actually anxiety.  Not panic-attack level, medication-necessary anxiety, just run-of-the-mill Jewish Grandma worry. Understanding more abouthow my brain works has been helpful. It hasn’t cured me,,,but perhaps reading up on how you feel can make a difference. By understanding what’s happening in your brain chemistry,You can let feelings pass through you and acknowledge them, and ultimately let them go in a moment of zen, or treat them professionally if necessary.

http://www.sailmeom.com/stories/2016/10/25/fear-anxiety-boats

On the Sea of Life, Part II

As stated in the Sea of Life Part I blog entry, each line I read in the poem below was questioned. My brain kept repeating, ‘what if’ until it reached such a crescendo that I had to literally get out of my easy chair and write about it to help quell the voices within. Each line in the poem as it was presented are in the left column. On the right is my response as I rationalize my behavior in order to make sense out of my choices.  At the least doing so became an interesting insight into my cynicism. . . Let me know your thoughts . . .

There is so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t What if finding someone who will want you is fulfilling? Ever watch the gleam in the eyes of people in their 70s or 80s holding hands as they stroll along?

Sadness is a normal part of rejection in our bitter sweet life. What if one allows a limited amount of time to be sad while allowing time to be happy in each day. What if I quit being sad over my husband’s death? That would be the ultimate sadness….

There is a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way What if I have spent my life discovering myself without hoping someone will fall in love with me along the way, but what if my being is overwhelmed with the quest to taste love’s lasting pleasure?
And it doesn’t need to be painful or empty What if we need pain to feel relief?
You need to fill yourself up with love What if it gets tiring? What if a message from a friend adds to fulfillment?
Not anyone else What if others want to add love to your life?
Become a whole being on your own What if you are a whole being? What if being whole needs defining?
Go on adventures What if my adult life has been an adventure? Buying my own sailboat, teaching myself how to sail, sailing solo from Bermuda to Florida? These are not adventures,,,, surfing in Jeffreys Baai, trekking the Lares Valley
Fall asleep in the woods with friends What if I have slept in the woods with friends and along?
Wander around the city at night What if I spent more nights I can remember or count wandering the streets of New York City? It doesn’t get more citied than New York…
Sit in a coffee shop on your own What if I spent many a morning or mid day sitting in a coffee shop alone? What if I told you at age 21 I did so in the French Quarter? Just sipping a latte watching others come and go?
Write on bathroom stalls Yea, what if I told you I have written on walls around the world?
Leave notes in library books What if I have written and continue to leave notes in books I read, whether in the library or in a campground, marina book swap.
Dress up for yourself What if I took a pix of myself wearing my brand new size 27 stretch skinny jeans, that I proudly sasshaed around in, and didn’t need a complement to stick my chin up, and boobs out, cause I knew I looked good!
Give to others What if I continually donate time and money to others?
Smile a lot What if I smile most of the day? Even when I was at Linda’s I practiced the wonderful mantra she shared with me, “chin up, boobs out, smile, smile, smile.
Do all things with love What if I believe I do all things with love? I avoid judgement… I respond
Don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without love What if romanticizing just comes into my brain? I can survive, I will survive, that is not an issue. What if I choose to survive with a mate with whom there is mutual love?
Live for yourself What if living for myself is the only way I can live? Indeed I firmly believe everyone does. Even Mother Theresa lived for herself; her way of living for herself meant helping the poor, indigant and ill.
Be happy on your own What if I can be happy on my own but the daunting ‘work’ to live on my own is eased with the loving companionship of a mate
It isn’t less beautiful, Promise What if beauty is in the eye of the beholder

 

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